In the so-called courtship is people live a lie and wear masks

When you listen to counselors talking and giving reasons why the divorce and separation rate is high the first question or the reason they will give will be based on if you took time to know each other well the duration that you both had before you ended up together and if you say that you too didn’t take time then they will blame everything on that. When they will be giving advice to new couples they will tell them to take time to know likes and dislikes of each other, to know the families the one you are with have come from but the question is how to do this help and do this actually help.

Going back to old days how long did our parent date before they got married and how many of them that have separated today if you ask them they will tell you that a week didn’t end after they spotted each other or a month didn’t end and up to now they have been next to each other for years and they have never separated. What actually happens in the so-called courtship is people live a lie and wear masks as all they want is to impress each other, sometimes people live in debt just to please the person he/she dating, and instead of making people know each other, it makes them strangers as they are both living someone else life.

What should actually happen is if you know and feel that now its time for you to get married and get married all you should do is take a quick step of getting married there and then and this will make you know the man/ the woman you are getting married to if he/she is hot-tempered if he/she is a drunkard not to be a saint then when you end up in the same room that’s when you realize that he/she has been a waring mask.
Don’t waste your time in the name of knowing each other something that will never happen you can only know someone’s character when you are near it.