Many people use social media for different reasons—some for personal branding, some for business, and unfortunately, some to spread hate or fuel division. Others use social media to connect and build relationships. Some of these online connections have led to beautiful marriages, while others have resulted in daily regret.

Because of this growing trend, the slogan “Send me fare” has become popular. Many women use this phrase to ask men to send them money for transport so they can visit. This has sparked debates online and even led to the rise of the term “gangster points,” where some argue that men are praised for spending money, while women are criticized for asking for it.

The phrase “Send me fare so I can come visit you” did not start recently—it has existed for a long time. It only became viral in recent days. While many stories have gone wrong, not all of them end in disappointment. Some have worked out beautifully, and people are proud of the bold steps and initiatives they took.

The real question that arises is this: What value is this person adding to my life? What will the future look like? If a woman claims to love a man but cannot sacrifice a small amount of money to visit him—especially when they are in the same financial position, or sometimes when she earns even more—what does that say about the relationship?

Interestingly, many of the successful “send me fare” stories follow a different pattern. A man and a woman meet and exchange contacts. They talk for a long time and develop genuine interest in each other. The woman may realize that the man is not financially stable enough to travel, so she decides to either visit him herself or send him fare to come and meet her. Although it has also happened the other way around—with men sending money—the highest number of successful unions seem to come from situations where the woman took the initiative.

At the end of the day, relationships are not built on who sent the fare, but on mutual effort, sacrifice, and genuine interest. Sometimes, one simple message can either start a regret—or begin a lifelong journey together.